0:00:00 – Opening
0 09:13 – When my Boss doesn’t take his share of ownership.
0:17:44 – At What level up the chain does Extreme Ownership stop?
0:35:52 – How to be aggressive when it’s not part of her natural personality.
0:52:45 – How to deal with a negative complainer / Debbie Downer.
1:11:02 – How to mentally prepare for war / adversity.
1:14:38 – What to do when nobody is listening to you or respecting you.
1:51:43 – Do you explain the “why” to your team if they don’t ask?
1:57:14 – How to deal with insecurities.
2:05:30 – How to stay on THE PATH.
2:27:18 – Closing Gratitude.
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Thank you for another informative episode. I especially appreciate the musings of Echo Charles, M.B.S. (Master’s, Bro Science).
Thank you for taking the time to explore the question about the person who wasn’t good at influencing and relating to people. I’ve been struggling with this same problem myself and didn’t have the understanding of how to deal with it. At some points earlier in life I chose the wrong people to be around (or as a kid you’re stuck with who is at school), with whom I couldn’t make good connections, and was getting a bad result based on that. Because of that I didn’t get experience at doing the right things thus later ruining the potentially good opportunities. Due to my wife’s work and family situations we’ve moved around a lot, and I’ve changed jobs to accommodate that 6 times in the last 5 years and four more times on top of that in the prior 5. Building relationships correctly takes time, opportunity, and practice that sometimes you just don’t have. The consequences of mistakes then lead to isolation that compounded and prolonged the problem. I found myself stuck in a binge pattern where I try to catch up for lost time and opportunity, trying to quickly fill in what has long been missing, and that pushed people away. This has apparently been impacting work and other opportunities in life. Currently my work is closed and I’m having more time to think about things and wanting to do better. I definitely want to be better at things than I have been, or at least as it appears by the results that I have gotten thus far. It is very, very hard repeatedly starting at the beginning and the bottom again and again. But at least now I have some information to go on that I previously didn’t have, so thank you.
Jocko
What are your thoughts on passing down family businesses? What I have seen is a divide between generations between ownership/ accountability and free loading and advantage taking. I refuse to hire my kids because I am not a good disciplinarian and I recognize it. But it is from my pov a rampant issue… thank you
Greetings Jocko and Echo. First thanks for an amazing podcast. I’ve been going through some challenges in my life and can’t tell you how much your podcast is helping. Great advice and great things I can dig into and research to make me a more effective human.
Everything I’m about to say, Jordan Peterson perfectly summarized by saying , “stand up straight with your shoulders back.”
In this episode one of the last questions is from a person dealing with insecurities. The thing, well A thing that caught my ear was the bit about people not going around him. I recognize that pattern because I lived it for waaay longer than I would like to admit. I have to say this, you’re right on the money about it being a function of confidence. What I found was I was misdirecting people with my eyes and my body language. I was giving people nonverbal cues about where I was going, what my destination was… And those cues were off. I just did not understand that I was doing something outside of expected behavior.
Here is what I found, people understand naturally that your eyes are directing where you’re going. There’s a pretty good chance this guy’s eyes are focused on something very close as he is walking down the hallway. People take that to mean that he is going to adjust his direction in the very near future. They have no idea where he is actually headed which causes confusion.
So do this, when you’re walking somewhere pick a point off in the distance and look straight at it with your head up and your shoulders back Head for it like you really want to get there and people will get the idea. You will find that people will naturally go the direction they’re going and you go the direction you were going without all of this dancing around one another.
It took me a little while to figure it out and still a little bit longer on how to do it naturally without barreling through people.
Anyone have some thoughts, I’d love to hear it.
As an OIF veteran I can relate to “you gotta enjoy the Jam!”
The quote of the week or the month for that matter “Get Default Aggressive with your Data (48:34).” Always enlightening!!
Thanks Echo Charles & Jocko
Jocko & Echo,
*Post-quarantine planning* What are your suggestions on doing straight Jiu Jitsu or joining an MMA gym that has Boxing, Muay Thai, Jiu Jitsu and Wrestling? They don’t have belt progressions for Jiu Jitsu, but is that imperative for someone who is just trying to learn?
Thanks for a good podcast. I have just started to check out your work after listening to Brian Koppelman’s podcast. I am assuming the questions are genuine and wondering if you replied privately before the podcast. I felt uncomfortable when listening to the post-mortem of the question regarding people not respecting or listening to advice. If I were the author of that question I would have felt shame hearing it read back in this way. I think the shame would have stopped me from hearing the good advice you then gave in response. Perhaps my emotional response to this is a reflection of my similarities to the author! …. something I will work on 😉